How To Stop Worrying & Start Living
Dale Carnegie says that he has written this book because he himself was unhappy with his life and he hated his position in life. He himself made sick about his worrying for the issues happening in his life.
This book is showing real life experiences of the author, and how he has found solutions for them. The goal of this book is to lead the reader to a more enjoyable and fulfilling life, helping them to become more aware of not only about themselves but also for others around them. How to stop worrying and start living has been translated into 58 different languages.
In this book author gives tips on how to stop worrying about issues and he has divided this book into eight sections.
Section 1: Fundamental Facts You Should Know About Worry
We all are worried about one or the other reason. But we should know the reason about that worry.
‘’ To care less about worries, start caring more about present tasks and goals”
Further Author is also focusing on what worry can do to you. He says that the primary cause of worry is fear. When you know the effects of worrying, you automatically stop worrying. Researchers say that, when person is in stress or worrying continuously, they are harming their physical functionality and can suffer from three diseases – high blood pressure, heart diseases, and ulcer. If you worry less your life time will be extended.
Section 2: How To Break Worry Habit Before It Breaks You
In this author says that occupying yourself into one or the other things. Researches show that human mind can’t think many things at one time. It means that we can’t be happy and worried together at the same time. When we occupy our mind in the activities which we like, our mind will generate cloud of positive thoughts. Therefore doctors use occupational therapy with the anxiety patients. So author suggest being busy and occupying mind somewhere else to stay away from worry.
Don’t fuss about trifles “don’t permit little things to ruin your life”
Author says that we should stop worrying about little issues. To gain mental peace, avoid mind trivial things. When such small issues happen change your focus so that your mind is on the essential issues. Always remember that life is too short, so never get upset with such things.
Don’t Fuss About Trifles- Cooperate With The Inevitable
Author says that there is no logic for fighting against what will happen. Instead of this we should think what if that will happen. And then take best out of it. There is only logic to worry about if you can resist the situation to be happened. But if you can’t you should move ahead and go on.
Section 3: Seven Ways To Cultivate A Mental Attitude That Will Bring You Peace And Happiness
Fill Your Mind With Thoughts Of Peace, Courage, Health, And Hope
In this author says that, our dominating mind and thoughts creates reality. If you continuously think about the bad things will happen to me, this thought will dominate your mind and it will come into reality. For example, if we develop thought of not having enough money to buy house, this thought will dominate your mind and for long time and my years you will not have enough money to buy house.
Never Try To Get Even With Your Enemies
Here author is saying that we should not take revenge on anyone. This only pays us not them. Always develop habit of forgive. Don’t be one of those people who wait for karma to take a toll.
Author saying to remember that the only way to find happiness is not to expect gratitude but to give for the joy of giving. When we do favor to someone and in that return if a person is not saying thank you, we should not worry about it.
Count Your Blessings, Not The Troubles
In further addition author is also saying that we should count our blessings not our troubles. This means that we should calculate what we have and don’t worry about what we don’t have, instead we should think how we will get it what we don’t have. This gives us more strength to overcome worry.
Find Yourself And Be Yourself
Author says that, to know our self is the most important adventure of our life. Discovering who we are and what capabilities I have. Finding our self may sound like an inherently self-centered goal, but it is actually an unselfish process that is at the root of everything we do in the life. author suggest that we have to find out in which area we are good at and at which area we are not good at, find your passion – passion produces effort and continuous effort produces results.
Section: 4: The Perfect Way To Conquer Worry
Live In Present
We always listen that we should live in present. Don’t worry about past and don’t worry about future. But how this can happen? In today’s fast pace and hectic schedules most of us keep, a base level of anxiety, stress and unhappiness is the new norm. But this tendency to get sucked into the past and the future can leave you perpetually worn out and feeling out of touch with yourself.
Section 5: How To Keep From Worrying About Criticism
Remember That Unjust Criticism Is Often A Disguised Compliment
In this author explains about the jealousy and envy. When someone criticized you, remember that the criticizer is feeling more importance. It often means that you are accomplishing something and are worthy of attention. This gives only satisfaction to criticizer.
Analyze Your Own Mistakes And Criticize Yourself
When we fail in something which is important to us, whether in relationships, at work, or at school, it can be very painful. This experiences continuously fatigue our mind with hell lot of thoughts. At this time ask yourself who we think we are and who we want to be. Researchers say that people who blame negative events, are more likely to become depressed and suffer from heath issues, but finding out your mistakes and constructively criticize yourself, involve optimistic explanatory style, with a focus on specific and modifiable areas in need of improvement.
Section 6: Five Ways To Prevent Fatigue And Worry And Keep Your Energy And Spirits High
Rest Before You Get Tired
Author says that when you tired mentally and physically there is always a warning sign that you are losing energy. So author suggesting here that try to find ways to rest and relax before those warning signs become overwhelming symptoms, which will be harder to cure in future.
Learn To Relax At Your Work
Author says that our work place is always a place where we get stressed out. To avoid such worries, you can always interact with people outside of the work-related tasks, taking a walk and getting a breath of fresh air or simply walking away from your desk and taking a quick break from the task at hand. This will refresh your mind while at office.
Protect Your Health And Appearance By Relaxing At Home
In this case author that we always think that whatever we are doing outside the office is relaxation, either park or restaurant. But we should keep in mind that what we are doing outside the office can also impact on our work, in terms of attention, energy and mood. No one is denying to do fun outside the office but relaxing and sitting at home can give you more relaxing time than any other place.
Four Good Working Habits That Will Help Prevent Fatigue And Worry
We always like to be in the place which is clean and neat. Tidy places give negative feelings to our mind and create fatigue of worry thoughts. Here author is suggesting four good working habits to avoid worry.
- Clear your desk of all papers except those relating to immediate problems or tasks at hand.
- Do things in the order of their importance.
- When you face a problem, solve it then and there if you have all of the facts needed to make a decision.
- Learn to organize, deputize and supervise
Put Enthusiasm Into Your Work
Author says that whatever work we do that all are not excited and invigorating, but how we will take it that also matters. How you approach your job, your task at hand or your coworkers can make big difference. Whatever work we have at our workplace that we have to do anyhow, so smile and do it. This gives good feelings rather than making faces and do it.